May 28, 2017 Pastor: Jim Swaney Series: It's Complicated, Navigating Your Relational World
Scripture: 2 Timothy 2:22–2:26
IT’S COMPLICATED: Navigating Your Relational World
“Fighting Fair—How to Resolve Conflict”
2 Timothy 2:22-26
Communication is the lifeblood of any good relationship. And yet, the sharing of one’s ideas often results in conflict. How do you go about “fighting fair”—resolving conflict as a follower of Christ?
22 “Flee the evil desires of youth and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, along with those who call on the Lord out of a pure heart. 23 Don’t have anything to do with foolish and stupid arguments, because you know they produce quarrels.” 2 Timothy 2:22-23 (NIV)
“19 My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, 20 because human anger does not produce the righteousness that God desires.” James 1:19 (NIV)
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)
Three Steps to help you resolve conflicts:
- Pick the right battle. 2 Timothy 2:23
Question to self: Is this battle/fight about my ego, or about Christ’s cause?
- Work on 2 Timothy 2:22
Question to self: What is one character trait you can grow in?
- Tone it 2 Timothy 2:25-26
Question to self: How can I help decelerate the drama?
Some Rules of Engagement for Clean Fighting: (7 “Nevers”)
- Never mention divorce
- Never bring up unrelated items from the past (did you really forgive them?)
- Never fight in public, or in front of your children (disagree, maybe…)
- Never forgo calling a “TIME OUT” if the conflict is becoming damaging (e.g. personal attacks, character assault, etc.)
- Never touch each other in harmful ways
- Never go to bed angry with each other
- Never give up on working things out; after all, Jesus never gave up on you!